26 July, 2019
To parents: Children are not toys!
by Anila Bashllari
I was meditating by watching and hearing the sea waves and something that was happening next to me grabbed my attention. A young couple with a 13 months baby was playing with the waves and the mother decided to jump in the water.
“I will dive in and let’s see the baby’s reaction. Let’s see if he will miss me” – said the young mother. I am not typically curious about what other people do but it is my profession to observe human behaviors from a critical point of view. In this case, I really wanted to see the baby’s reaction even though I clearly knew how the situation would evolve.
While the mother was playing with the waves to see if the baby would miss her, the baby started screaming so loud that I was about to talk to the mother and let her know about the dangerous consequences of such “game”.
My perspective as a Neurocoach on this situation is: children consider their parents as a source of love, care, safety, shelter – in every single moment. This is how we are programmed to think as children. When a child is challenged with such lack of care by the parent, its brain experiences stress and fear and this can have a long term impact in the child’s brain performance, in its behavior and personality.
Parents should be very CAREFUL! Children are not toys and everything they experience sticks with them their entire life. Become aware of the important role and your responsibilities in raising mentally and physically healthy children. Get educated on children’s psychological traits and the parent’s ideal behavior.
Children are sacred. Take care of their brains and psychology.
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